Friday, August 28, 2009

vaccinations: conspiracy theory or undiscovered truths?

A hot topic of discussion (and controversy) when preparing to be a new parent is around vaccinations. Are they completely safe? When should you vaccinate? According to the schedule laid out by the government? Or is there a better option for your child?

It's all quite daunting and from what I can tell, there are basically three camps. 1) Those who vaccinate according to the CDC 2) Those who don't vaccinate at all and 3) Those who ask to have certain shots broken up or spaced out to supposedly minimize risk.

My cousin recommended this book to me: What Your Doctor May Not Tell You about Children's Vaccinations. I went back and forth for awhile about whether I wanted to buy the book (I have WAY too many pregnancy/baby books!) But in the end I figured more information is better than less.

I was half right.

I did some research on my own and even asked a couple of my trusty early learning friends (read: gurus) their opinion on vaccinations and its link (or lack thereof) to autism. Both agreed it's a very personal decision on the part of the parent (I, too agree with that sentiment) but that the benefits of vaccinating your child greatly outweigh any risks. I definitely agree and it was NEVER and option for us to not vaccinate. However, I'm also not 100% convinced that these countless stories of babies falling ill or sometimes even dying have absolutely no connection to certain vaccines.

Now, is it the vaccine itself that causes these problems? Doubtful. I think if your child is healthy with a normal immune system, vaccinating it fine. But what about those babies who don't have a normal immune system? Apparently, there are two studies done in 2008 and 2009 that found that children with autism have lower levels of certain antibodies that play a role in immunity. Some believe that this is a prime reason why certain children react negatively to vaccines -- their immune systems just can't handle it. The problem is, there's currently no way of knowing how well your child's immune system is working -- no preventative measure as of yet. The only way to know is to give your child the vaccine and see what happens. Hm. That's like giving Brian a fistful of peanuts to see if he's allergic. Not comforting at all.

On the other hand, I think a lot of these books, including the one I mention above, don't REALLY give you the straight facts and a good part of what they're selling is just that -- what they're selling. It's marketing at its best to sell books and make money.

A perfect example is the entire Mercury chapter in What Your Doc May Not Tell You (chapter 3). It talks about thimerosal, an ingredient that in recent years has been challenged by parents because it contains mercury. The book does the right thing and distinguishes between the two kinds of mercury: methylmercury and ethylmercury. Ethylmercury is what's found in thimerosal. The book then tries to claim that the toxicity of methylmercury is the same as ethylmercury, but does not put forth any actual data to back up this claim. (Granted, the amount of research done on ethylmercury is limited, but still the author puts forth no actual evidence to back up her statement)

Then the scare tactics and spinning begins.

The chapter goes on to compare mercury levels in tuna, which everyone knows to be true, and compares it to the thimerosal vaccine. Here's an exerpt:

"Let's look at two items for which the level of mercury is known: a six-ounce can of tuna fish, which contains an average of 17 micrograms (mcg) mercury, and a pediatric dose of hepatitis B vaccine, which contains 12.5 mcg."

Notice that the author is very careful to just use the word "mercury" when making this comparison because the fact of the matter is, the mercury in tuna is methylmercury while the mercury in thimerosal is ehtylmercury. She has flat out stated the latter on a previous page, but doesn't state the former as clearly. The way the paragraph is written, you are easily led to believe that she's comparing apples to apples. She isn't.

Methylmercury is what contaminates fish and can build up in the body leading to nerve damage. But ethylmercury doesn't accumulate in the body the way methylmercury does.

My sense after reading the way the author wrote this entire chapter on mercury is that she knew she couldn't outright present false information. Obviously, she'd get reamed for it. So, she "spun" it in her favor. I found it appalling and therefore discount her entire book.

I will note though, that the book was written in 2001 so perhaps some of her opinions and "facts" are outdated. And since then thimerosal has been taken out of most vaccines anyway. But apparently, autism rates have still increased since then, leading scientists to believe that there isn't a connection between the two.

So...after all that what am I going to do about vaccinations? Well, I've been trying to get in touch with our pediatrician to ask what her philosophy on it is. I haven't been able to find much info on the cons to spreading out some of the shots so I'd like to hear from her on that.

I definitely want to ask her about the Hep B shot that they give babies right after they're born at the hospital. It's unclear to me why a baby needs to have that vaccination so soon. Plus, if my baby is smaller weight-wise, I want to ask her whether this should be taken into consideration (i.e. Is there any connection between his size and the development of his immune system?)

I know for a fact that our baby WILL get all his vaccinations. I just need to talk with my pediatrician about the pros and cons around timing and get some of my other lingering questions answered.

The doctor surely knows best (or at least knows better than I do!) so I will trust her judgment. But I need to ask the questions. Not asking and just blindly doing whatever "they" tell me when there's all of this known skepticism out there just doesn't work for me.

the sleep challenge

These days, sleeping well is a luxury. Since I've been side sleeping for awhile now I'm somewhat used to it but as my belly gets bigger, side sleeping brings on other new challenges. For example, the leg that falls asleep. You would think that since I'm already technically sleeping, that this wouldn't be a problem. You'd be wrong. Whatever side I'm sleeping on, that leg (the one on the bottom) will fall asleep after awhile. I suppose my heavy belly cuts of circulation to that leg and then it starts to ache and throb. Of course, the pain wakes me up...and once I'm up I have to pee. When I'm back in bed I switch sides to relieve the pain in my leg. But after about an hour of sleeping on the other side, all I've done is shared the wealth because now my other leg is asleep. Repeat process.

Recently, the "sleeping leg" has also started to morph into calf cramps. Now, I've heard about leg cramps from everyone. Apparently, it's very common in pregnancy. I've only had a couple of instances where my calf has started to cramp up but I've caught it in time to stretch it out. I'm noticing it a lot more as I get bigger. So, I've taken to stretching every night before bed for fear of a MAJOR charley horse (where does this term come from anyway?) in the middle of the night. So far, so good.

Then, there's the baby that keeps me from sleeping. He's bigger and definitely stronger now, which is great! But it also means he moves and kicks really hard when I'm lying on my side trying to sleep. Sometimes it's so uncomfortable that I pretty much beg him to stop and just "let mommy sleep!"

But I guess that's just a preview of things to come!

Tuesday, August 25, 2009

37 weeks!


34 weeks



37 weeks!

Saturday, August 22, 2009

2cm dilated, 50% effaced! tick, tick, tick...

Went to my now weekly doctor appointment on Thursday. She did the Group B strep culture test (they basically swab you and then if you're positive you have to take antibiotics during labor) and checked my cervix for the first time. This is how the examination went:

Doc: "Okay, I'm just going to check your cervix. Touch on your thigh...Oh, the baby's right there! You're 2cm dilated."

Me: "What?" (shocked look on face)

Doc: "Yup." (smiling with not a care in the world)

Me: "So...what does that mean?" (shock turning into excitement, turning into panic)

Doc: "Well, the baby's in position and you're progressing so that's good."

Me: "Does that mean I'll deliver early?"

Doc: "Well, it could be. You could deliver this week, or next..."

Me: "This week?!" (panic sets in...begin to freak out)

Doc: "Some women are dilated at 2cm for weeks so you could deliver right around your due date. But it's likely you'll deliver early. But your baby is full term so it's fine if you deliver now."

Me: (thinking in my head..."Uh, no! Not ready for this baby to come out yet! He needs to stay in! Stay in, stay in, stay in...." Outwardly, I think I just looked dumbfounded)

Doc: (chuckling) "Just try to hold the baby in for another week because I'm on vacation next week."

Me: "Uh, yah! I know."

That night Brian and I proceeded to rush around the house trying to get the baby room more organized, started packing our hospital bag and Brian began worrying about all the work he has to get done before baby gets here. He's at work right now in fact, and will probably work tomorrow too.

I ran errands yesterday...got some nursing tops and other essentials at Target. I also returned some things and bought some things at UVillage for baby. Tomorrow we're going to Costco to buy diapers and wipes and such.

So far, I feel the same. But I do feel somewhat like a ticking time bomb now that I know I'm dilated a bit. Being only 50% effaced makes me feel a little better though -- baby can't be too close if I still have another 50% to go (I hope!).

I REALLY want him to stay in another couple weeks...just make it to September, baby!!

Saturday, August 15, 2009

big head, short legs

Brian is napping and I wrote a few more thank you notes. Doesn't our Saturday sound fun? ha. I'm about to wake B up in a minute but thought I'd give him a few more zzz's. Lots of baby and house chores to do this weekend but it's also one of the last weekends where B will probably get to nap, so on the couch he snores.

Went to the doc on Thursday and she said I was measuring a little small. Had a ultrasound on Friday to make sure baby is growing okay. I was a little freaked out Thursday night because the doc kept telling me that they only do ultrasounds in the third trimester if something seems abnormal. Great. Shockingly, B wasn't very worried and it turned out to be fine.

They measured the baby's head, thigh, rib cage, cord blood, the amount of amniotic fluid, etc. Everything looks normal although they did say the baby is just on the "smaller side of normal." They approximate he weighs 5 lbs 7 oz right now and estimate he'll weigh 6 lbs 2 oz at birth. That seems a tad light to me, but my doctor says all the numbers look fine and I don't need to do anything different. Still, I find myself searching the house for more things to eat.

The funny thing is, even if the baby is on the smaller side...looks like his head is HUGE! That'll be oh-so-fun when I need to push him out! Right now I'm almost 36 weeks but his head is measuring at 37. His thigh bone is only measuring at 32 weeks though so Brian thinks the baby will be short. hahaha. He was kinda sad about that...that the baby got the "short gene" from him, he says.

We asked the doctor about this and she said, "Well, maybe." So really, that means, yes, your baby will be short. Poor guy. We'll see though...maybe he'll have a growth spurt once he's out of the womb?

All I really care about is that he's healthy and that he STAYS IN for 4 more weeks! We're not ready for him just yet.

Monday, August 10, 2009

5 weeks and counting


Can't believe I have only 5 weeks left. Baby will be here in no time!

We're still trying to get the room ready...making progress slowly. Went to BRU yesterday to return a few duplicate items (we got 2 bjorns, 2 monitors, 2 of the same swaddle blankets -- although those weren't BRU items. And we might just keep both, we'll see). Used the credit, plus gift cards (thanks aunty and Kimi!) to buy some essential items: bassinet, changing pad, hangers and our sherman rocker!

I LOVE that chair. For whatever reason, it is crazy comfortable. Especially when you rock in it. Even the ottoman rocks back and forth. So great. Brian put it together yesterday. It's currently in our living room cause we're going to enjoy it for a few days before he brings it upstairs. It's THAT comfy.

My to do list is a bit long and the closer we get to baby, the more I know I need to get through the list. The dilemma is that the bigger my belly gets, the lazier I am. This does not make for a good combination. Tasks yet to be done include:
  • Decorating the baby room. Some of the decorations we registered for are coming in the mail (so I've been told by people who bought it for us) so once that gets here I'll try to make the room a little prettier.
  • Need to also get a nice blue/green or something rug to give the room some color.
  • Find a lamp for the room. This has proven to be difficult to find for some reason.
  • Need to make a costco run to buy diapers and wipes at some point.
  • Brian needs to install the car seat. It's already put together though so it'll take him all of 5 minutes to put it in the car. I want to wait a bit on this one cause it'll just sit there an collect dust if we put it in. I hate dust.
  • I've been trying to wash all the blankets and sheets and clothes that we'll use immediately so the baby has clean stuff. It's funny, when I buy clothes for myself I never wash it before the first use. But for the baby, it's like he's brand new and a clean slate so I don't want to tarnish him with unwashed wear...who knows where those things have been?
  • Baby needs more clothes! I have a whole box full of stuff that Karis gave me awhile back. I need to go through that and see what I can use. Then it's time to shop, if need be! =)
  • Need to buy a cute "coming home" outfit for the little guy.
  • Must pack our bag for the hospital.
  • Apparently, I need to put together a phone tree of who's calling whom when I go into labor and when baby gets here. Both Joanne and Colleen have given me crap about this. I didn't realize this was a big deal but I guess it is! It's nice that they care enough to want to know "what their role is," as they've told (read: scolded) me.
  • Working on writing thank you notes from our shower. Problem with this is carpal tunnel is a common pregnancy symptom and my forearm hurts after 15 minutes of writing thank you notes. Needless to say, this may take me awhile.
Not to mention that around Sept 1 I'm sure I will be on a rampage to clean every inch of this house! Brian will definitely be helping out with that one. He's been really great, actually. He helps me clean every weekend cause it's hard for me to vacuum and stuff these days. What a good hubby. :)

Then there's the whole "we only have 5 weeks left without baby...forever!" So, I've told Brian he is not allowed to work any weekends from now until baby gets here. We have stuff to do but we also just need to spend some time together. We're fully aware of how much our lives will change and know that time alone will be much harder to come by. We need to enjoy it while we can!

And the countdown continues...

Wednesday, August 5, 2009

34 weeks

and it just keeps getting bigger! I'm starting to fill out on the sides more now...


31 weeks


34 weeks!

Tuesday, August 4, 2009

Baby B's shower

This past Sat was little Baby B's shower! Perfect day -- sunny but not too hot, cool breeze. Gorgeous! Richmond Beach Park is such a pretty, almost hidden little beach. Great location for the kiddies cause they could wander around and play. I think it may have been a little too hot for some of them, but it's summer in Seattle! Might as well be outdoors. :)

Brian and I enjoyed making our rounds of the tables, talking story and hanging out with everyone. Food was yummy and games were fun. We had a great time!

Here's some pics from the day:


how cute are the treats?


someone tell me what those leaf things are called please. they are good!


thanks, ladies!


my waddle buddy, rae. :)


i heart my hula sisters


WWQT :)


games!










cute, cute kiddies

Monday, August 3, 2009

alien baby

Yesterday, the baby pushed and turned and kicked practically for an entire hour nonstop. Either he just couldn't find a comfy position in the belly or maybe he didn't like the mexican pizza mommy couldn't resist from Taco Bell? (that was the best mexi pizza I ever ate, btw!) haha.

Here's a couple videos of the baby's alien rolls. The first video is pretty action packed and the second video, there's a big move-the-belly-on-both-sides kick at the very end.